Confidare Announces Art Gallery for International Men’s Day 2013
Confidare Announces Art Gallery for International Men’s Day 2013
International Men’s Day
International Men’s Day-19th November is celebrated in over 70 countries including Trinidad and Tobago, Jamaica, Australia, India, China, United States, Romania, Singapore, Malta, United Kingdom, South Africa, Tanzania, Zimbabwe, Botswana, Hungary, Ireland, Ghana, Canada, Denmark, Norway, Austria, Bosnia and Herzegovina, France, Italy, Pakistan, Antigua and Barbuda, St. Kitts and Nevis, St. Lucia, Grenada and Cayman Islands, on 19 November, and global support for the celebration is broad.
International Men’s Day began to be celebrated since 1999 after it was started in Trinidad and Tobago by Dr. Jerome Teelucksingh for whom his father was his role model.
Why International Men’s Day
The main objective of celebrating International Men’s Day is to celebrate being a man.
It also means to recognize the contributions that men make towards the progress of the society, to salute the sacrifices they make for their near and dear ones, to highlight the problems faced by them and create awareness about the same in the society.
Observing International Men’s Day also aims at bringing forth, the key issues faced by men and create awareness about the same in the society.
Facing ridicule, dismissal and invalidation, often men do not talk and share about their feelings and emotions that affect their health as well as their interpersonal relationships. Also, it creates a false notion that a man’s life is easy going and the society does not need men’s rights and male welfare to be put in place.
This one day is set aside for the society to extend gratitude towards all men, who have been making positive contributions to the world by working hard and sacrificing their likes and interests.
The theme of this year’s International Men’s Day is “Men Need to Talk and Share”.
- Today, Men are under tremendous pressure to perform and the macho culture makes them stiff and inflexible. It is considered unmanly for a man to talk and share his problems in open. If he shares, he risks being ridiculed or even insulted for the same, while he is blamed as an egoist if he does not share.
- Being a man in today’s world has its own unique challenges. Men across the world have started using International men’s day to initiate conversations on what it means to be a man in the modern world.
- Men lack communicational spaces. Men’s issues seldom make it to mainstream media as men are not encouraged to talk about their pains, worries, stress and tensions.
- Men don’t discuss these issues as since childhood, boys are discouraged from expressing themselves too much. It’s not surprising to see someone telling a boy child, “Do not cry like a girl”, “Be a man”.
- These sentences have deep impact on the psychological health of a boy who grows up to believe that it is ‘unmanly’ to cry and to express his pains, worries, stress and tensions.
- As a result men tend to bottle up things, which affect their health adversely. Society needs to understand a man’s need to talk and share his feelings and emotions.
Gone are the days, when men used to dwell in planet Mars by going into a cave, when they faced any problems or challenges in life.
Men need to talk and share not only in order to express themselves, but also to understand a fellow man’s pain. Often men make fun of other men when they are in pain and this behavior further creates an anti-male atmosphere. Hence, this International Men’s Day the theme is “Men need to talk and share”
Key Issues of Men
There are many issues that face men in the current society. There is either little or no awareness regarding these issues in the society. This leads to the creation of an atmosphere that is highly insensitive towards a man. Some of the key issues facing men are:
- Men face discrimination targeted against them in the family courts.
- Today, there is a 90% chance that a man will lose access to his children if he get separated or divorced.
- Married men are 2 times more likely to commit suicide compared to married women.
- Government and courts have no policy for prevention of suicide of married men.
- Even if a man is abused by a woman, society rarely punishes the abusive woman.
- Men are 4 times more likely to die in an accident compared to women.
- Men are conditioned by the society to take more risks and endanger their lives and limbs to play the role of an UNPAID PROTECTOR.
- The sacrifices that men make for society and family are taken for granted and considered to be a duty for the man.
- The contributions that men make towards society and family often go unsung.
These issues are just a tip of the iceberg of the many issues that face men currently in the society and need to be addressed.
Key Issues of Fathers
There are key issues facing fathers too specifically as shown below:
- Fathers face a lot of abuse when it comes to meeting their children or spending time with them.
- There are enough men who are subjected to emotional blackmail and torture, at the hands of their cruel and abusive wives, if they make attempts to meet their children.
- Especially when the couple is undergoing a separation, fathers are not allowed to meet their children or spend quality time with them.
- They are just treated as FREE ATM MACHINES and SPERM DONORS by the courts, and society. This attitude is leading to the formation of a fatherless society.
International studies have revealed disturbing trends about fatherless societies as seen below:
Fatherless children are:
- 5 times more likely to commit suicide
- 32 times more likely to run away from home.
- 20 times more likely to have behavioral disorders
- 14 times more likely to commit rape.
- 9 times more likely to drop out of high school.
- 10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances (become drug addicts)
- 9 times more likely to end up in a state-operated institution
- 20 times more likely to end up in prison.
- 3 million teenage girls have sexually transmitted diseases
- At least 1 out of 4 teenagers (between 14years to 19years) suffers from sexually transmitted diseases.
This year Confidare Consultancy presents an “Art Gallery and Exhibition”, in association with CRISP. This art gallery shall contain photographs, cartoons and statistics which highlight various aspects of a man’s/boy’s life. There will also be a section on books written about men’s issues and how societies abuse and use men. There will a section of videos which would showcase revealing aspects of “Being a Man”.
This Gallery will be held on 16-17 November 2013 at “Vismaya Gallery,Rangoli-Metro Art Centre (opposite Times of India Building) from 11 AM – 8 PM on both the days. Contact: 90083 02822.
About Confidare and CRISP:
Confidare India has started India’s first ever Community Center to enable men to talk and share about challenges and stressful aspects of life, especially marital/relationship problems. Confidare provides education and trainings on relationship troubles to men in all walks of life including men in corporate. Hundreds of men have participated in these gender sensitivity trainings and have got significant benefits in dealing with stressful situations in life and relationships.
Children’s Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting (CRISP) is the first ever NGO formed to enable fathers to share their feelings and emotions towards their children, including fathers who have lost access to their children during separation and divorce. On several occasions CRISP has interacted with law commissions and members of parliament to create sensitivity towards modern day fathers’ relationship towards their children. As men are getting more and more into the role of nurturer, CRISP advocates for shared parenting as a default arrangement for bringing up healthy children, when the couples separate or get divorced.
On this important occasion of international men’s day we hereby appeal to our media friends to kindly cover the above subject in the interest of men and society at large.