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Male Rape – An ostentatious reality of society?

Male Rape – An ostentatious reality of society?

Perceptive realities and Double Standards

Perceptive realities and Double Standards

The word rape invokes a plethora of emotions amongst people. Without any prizes for guessing, the emotions are those of hatred against men. Even though, rape is forced sex without consent by definition, yet over-emphasis on protection of women and considering men as the disposable gender, it has been ensured that the word rape sparks hatred against men.

In fact, so deep is this hatred against men that we do not even feel like validating the allegations of rape against a man and there have been umpteen instances of innocent men being accorded the worst of treatment merely on the basis of an allegation of rape. And this thought validates how lynching of innocent men happens only on the basis of suspicion and unproved allegations.

While this is one dark side of the ubiquitous and stereotypical implementation of the concept of rape which is gender biased, one-sided and anti-male in nature, there is another dark and gory side.

And that side being, no recognition of rape of men as an issue, either in society or in law. In India, in the Indian Penal Code, Section 375, which is for rape, does not recognize rape of men as a legal offense.

In fact, the social hatred against men, popularly known as misandry is so deep in the society that for even failed relationships that do not culminate in marriage, men are booked with rape charges. This happens, even when there is no such legal provision, but it happens due to faulty interpretation of the rape law by the judiciary.

It can only be ironical that to identify the problem faced by men we have a special term called “Male Rape” which has, of late, started gaining ground in academic circles. The word “rape” has been feminized to such an extent owing to misandry that by default the society assumes the woman as the victim.

It has gone to such an extent that we need a special term called “Male Rape” to convince the society that men can be raped. We need a special term to convince the society that women can force themselves onto men and men can be victims of sexual aggression.

Having a term for male rape is akin to having special terms for any other crime like male murder, male kidnap, male extortion, etc. Do we have these terms? We don’t have these terms, however, when it comes to sex, there is an assumption that it would always the man wanting it and forcing himself onto the woman if he does not get it compounded with the assumption that only men enjoy sex and women do it for men. This understanding is completely flawed and has no scientific backing.

Scientific Research has conclusively proved that women desire for and need more sex than men and they also yearn for variety of sexual partners. Yet, we have laws and social understanding that never hold a woman responsible for sex but are ever ready to punish a man for it. This is a pure reflection of the anti-male mindset of the society.

That male rape is an ostentatious reality is not a myth. Everyone knows it happens, but no one wants to acknowledge the problem, let alone solving it. This leaves the male victims of rape, high and dry as they do not get any listening in the society.

The need of the hour is a debate on this issue and the first thing that we need to do is realize that we should not need a special term called “Male Rape” just to recognize the fact that men can be victims of sexual aggression by women.

In addition to that, we need a complete overhauling of the definition of the very term called “Rape”. Years of feminist hardening and conservative mindset have broadened the definition of rape to such an extent that now anything and everything that a woman says, is considered as a rape and men are punished, but even when there is evidence, male victims of rape do not get justice.

In fact, many forms of coerced and manipulated sex with men are not at all considered rape even though we have a special term like “Male Rape” to identity male victims of rape. These forms include,

  1. Accusing a man of impotency to satiate their own lust.
  2. Manipulating a man’s sexual urge and controlling him.
  3. Threatening a man with suicide attempts in order to have sex.
  4. Forcing a man to cohabit with his abusive wife and have kids with her.
  5. Using violence against a man, forcing him to submit to his woman.

These and many other forms of sexual aggression on men are not even recognized as social crimes, let alone legal crimes for male rape to be taken seriously. Until and unless, we do not broaden the definition of rape and take these horrific crimes against men into account, male rape would remain an ostentatious reality for men.